Back in the day, when I was dreaming and working toward becoming a therapist, I had a decluttering client.
She was a family and marriage therapist into her 70s, with decades of work behind her, and so ill that she was working from home. Her clients, god bless them, were willing to visit her at her house as she could no longer travel to her office.
At the time I found inspiration in that. I thought: "This is why I want to be a therapist. I can do it until the day I die!"
Serious job security, right?
And then she said something that has changed the course of my path.
She said that some of her clients have been with her for over 25 years.
Something shifted and suddenly I no longer cared about the job security, comfort, and being paid to sit on my own couch. Suddenly, I realized that for me it would feel like a failure if my clients still needed me after 25 years.
I suddenly knew that to me this wouldn't be a compliment. It would be a disaster.
Now, that's not what I thought of her, sweet old lady I still fondly think of, god rest her soul.
But that's where I found my definition of success and realized that definitions matter. Because the difference between how she and I understood "job well done" changed my choices, my goals, and my work.
For some, a job well done is being needed, counted on, turned to year after year. That's most of our doctors and body workers, hair dressers and car mechanics, chefs and so on. We love and appreciate them and thank heavens when we find them - reliable, predictable, a match.
For others, like mentors and professors, teachers, trainers, coaches, and alike a job well done is an empowerment. A client, student, or an apprentice who found their own two feet, their foundation, their solid ground. Someone who has gained knowledge, experience, and wisdom and now ready to let go of a helping hand and move forward. On their own.
As it turned out, I belong to the second category.
For me, a biggest compliment is seeing my clients moving on. Powerfully and confidently. Knowing, secure, and courageous.
Whether it's decluttering a house, shifting a mindset, or achieving a physical wellbeing, if you hire me, you have to know that my goal is to be fired.
Without a doubt, I will help you to create the vision of the life you want to live.
And I'll be there with you every step of the way.
I will be your biggest cheerleader, I will teach you all I know, I will hold your hand when you're scared, and I will love you even when you can't love yourself.
I will see you through the dark and will celebrate your each and every light.
I will hold a place for you so sacred you'll get to know the depths of your soul to the tips of your toes and the ends of your hair. And then some.
And then, when you're ready, you will have to let me go.
Don't get me wrong, I won't abandon you half way through and my doors will always be open for your next goals and dreams.
But there will always come a time when you have to be ready to take the leap, ready to take charge of your life, ready to step out, ready to live. And then
I WANT YOU TO FIRE ME.