Yesterday, a friend of mine asked:
"What's a very first step you have your clients take when they're looking at a box of stuff they don't know what to do with?"
He followed up with a story:
He and his sister were helping their mom downsize her very large house, filled to the brim with stuff accumulated over the decades.
At some point, they came across a drawer full of nylon stockings - torn, damaged, and mismatched.
As they began to toss them into trash, their mom walked into the room. Panicked, she exclaimed:
WAIT! You're throwing away my LIFE!
I don't know about you, but my heart filled with compassion and sadness hearing this story.
Compassion, because I understand the pain so many of us go through when faced with letting go of the things we've come to identify as OUR LIFE.
Sadness, because I know that it's only when we go through the trenches of re-visiting, re-evaluating, and re-assessing our possessions, will we have the ability to see our lives as having much more value than the stuff we've accumulated over the years.
Luckily, I also know that the pain of letting go gets quickly replaced with RELIEF.
I see my clients laughing with joy, feeling like they're finally breathing again, wondering why have they put this off for so long at the end of the session.
My friend had some time to reflect on his experience and now, looking at his own house, he's realizing that so much of our stuff is accumulated without any intention behind it.
We just bring things home, we don't question our motives, it's completely unintentional!
He's not wrong.
That's why I shared that the very first step for my clients is to get clear on their INTENTION for:
Because when you know what you're creating it's very easy to see what doesn't belong.
So go ahead. Throw away your unintentional life.
And create one of purpose and meaning.
In clarity and joy