Parenthood is not easy.
I'm not a parent, but even from the outside it looks exhausting, complicated, and mind-twisting.
Some of my clients, who are currently in the middle of parenthood (meaning, their children are still growing up at home), are asking one question: How do I do it all?
How do I keep my kids and myself organized, keep a house running smoothly, avoid fights with the little and the big ones, and have some time to myself in the middle of it all?
Honestly, I don't think it's humanly possible. Again, I'm not a parent.
But here's what some of my "over the [parenthood] hill" clients say worked for them.
1. Having family meetings.
Getting clear on what's important to your family, how do you want to live together, and who's on the team.
Once a week is fabulous to catch up on what's happening, needs to happen, and shouldn't happen. Once a month is great. Once a quarter is stretching it, but is better than nothing.
2. Establishing mental boundaries.
Who's responsible for what (regular meetings will help keep this flowing and adjusting to the life events), what actions are needed to keep the house running smoothly (washing dishes, cleaning rooms, emptying the backpacks) and what are consequences for the lack thereof, who needs what and how to get it (quiet time, TV time, time away from home, cuddles).
3. Establishing physical boundaries.
How much storage space does each child get for his/hers toys, artwork, books, clothes, papers from school. What is allowed in the rooms and what is not (food in the kitchen or dining room only, dirty laundry in the bin by bedtime, new toys with a one-in-one-out rule).
These are just a few steps to begin shifting the parenthood overwhelm.
Biggest thing I hear that works for my clients is ASKING for what they need. Asking their partners, family members, teachers and yes, the kids themselves.
Staying organized isn't easy with multiple schedules and lives running simultaneously, but spreading the load of responsibility to make it all happen does!
Put down the load, invite everyone in the family to step up, and remember to schedule some time off for yourself!
Even if it's just an uninterrupted shower.
You deserve it!
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