Nina George's book "Little Paris Bookshop" spoke frankly of the ways we bury ourselves while still alive, refusing to feel joy and pleasure, fulfillment and satisfaction just to obey some old beliefs.
I see this pattern way too often in my clients' houses and her quote resonated deep within:
"Love is a house. Everything in a house should be used - nothing mothballed or 'spared'. Only if we fully inhabit a house, shunning no room and no door, are we truly alive. ...We must use absolutely everyone of love's rooms. If not, ghosts and rumors will thrive. Neglected rooms and houses can become treacherous and foul."
Ghosts and rumors definitely do thrive in houses unused.
Whether unused to preserve, to avoid, or to keep 'just in case', whatever the reason, unloved houses are filled with ghosts of the pasts, leaving no room for the present; filled with rumors, doubts, and fears of what might have been or should be, leaving no room for the clarity and truth of the now.
Open each door. Enter every room.
Tomorrow is not promised.
Today is the only place where you can truly live.